Anne Lakey, 54, denies a string of sex offences allegedly committed in the s. Anne Lakey, 54, engaged in a number of sexual acts with the boy when he was 13 and 14, including having sex with him, Durham Crown Court was told. The alleged offences are said to have taken place in the late s when she was a married teacher living aged around Judge Christopher Prince and a jury heard how the alleged victim, who was not one of Lakey's pupils, would visit the home she shared with her husband, with a group of youths. The court was told how on one occasion Lakey, who was in her late twenties, suggested the pair play a game of dares and that this resulted in her allowing him to expose and fondle her breast. The prosecutor also explained how the boy would visit while Lakey was in the bath and that on one occasion she allowed him to see her in the bath. Eventually, the court was told, Lakey had sex with the boy at her home, his first experience of intercourse, while he was wearing his school uniform.
Resilient cultural taboos mark reaching the age of puberty as the beginning of a process of strict regimentation and signal the start of a life of anguish for a female in Middle Eastern societies. Cultural taboos single out and overburden girls with societal fixation with female chastity. This obsession is reinforced by a strict regime of control and restrictions regarding the conduct and mobility of females. This control conditions the life of a female to a negative and constrained social existence. All the resources of the family, whose honor is at stake, are alerted and mobilized to guard the virginity of the female. Every male relative and every senior woman is concerned and involved in protecting her reputation. Paradoxically, the female herself is an active participant in this order through self-control, self-policing, and the women-dominated culture of gossip.
So it took us quite a while to awkwardly, semi-defeatedly concede to each other that we had run out of excuses to avoid sex. But I had been hoarding dollars from my summer jobs landscaping and lifeguarding. My offer must have indicated to my mother how badly I wished for the thing I was asking. My grandmother only lolled her head, smiling. Whatever the adventure, she was in, as long as it included the family. She had lost most of hers in the Holocaust. With curiosity, scepticism and goodwill, my parents and grandmother piled into the cramped, rusty Buick that was our first car in America and fumed off to whatever discount place they were going to for dinner. Newly permitted to drive, I jumped into our other car and sped off to a linen shop, in one of the nondescript shopping malls that surrounded our town like a blockading army. I was so anxious that I gashed a finger trying to open the cellophane packaging in which the sheets were packed. I laid them down and wondered how tacky it was for the folding creases to show.
Distance is hard, being away from family is tough, but in a way having only "each other" made our marriage so strong. I married outside the church and have no regrets. Why shouldn't both people be responsible for making it work. My 2 younger children are entering middle school soon.